Overreacting? Too Emotional?

Are you overreacting? Too emotional? Relationship problems happen to all people. When the scenario involves being told you are too emotional, or over-reacting-there may be something else causing the relationship trouble or marital problems.

I want to teach you about implicit and explicit memory. Implicit memory is sometimes referred to as unconscious memory or automatic memory. Implicit memory uses past experiences to remember things without thinking about them. Explicit memory, sometimes called declarative memory, is the conscious, intentional recollection of previous experiences and information. We use explicit memory throughout the day, such as remembering the time of an appointment or recollecting an event from years ago.

Are you overreacting? Too emotional? Oftentimes, when our response is quite emotional or our reaction is “over the top” and implicit memory has been triggered by an association. This can happen anytime to any of us. So if this type of situation is part of your relationship trouble or your marital problems, take pause to notice the patterns associated with when these things occur.

By thinking it through, and talking about it you may realize what triggers these responses and reactions. If these events are intense, seek professional help with a Certified EMDR Therapist. One of the many amazing aspects of EMDR Therapy is that implicit memories are processed as freely as explicit ones.

I wish you the best in your relationships, they are alive and need to be fed and cultivated.


We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.

John Lennon

But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Khalil Gibran

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