If you find yourself responding emotionally to what someone said, say so, and ask for more information: “I may not be
understanding you correctly, and I find myself taking what you said personally. What I thought you just said is…. is that what you meant?”
This book is a great resource for those planning to have children and for those who are already parents. The authors explain how making sense of your childhood experiences has a profound effect on how you parent your own children.
Internal processors have to think things through before they are in touch with their feelings and ready to talk. They are usually deliberate and methodical in their choice of words, taking longer to express themselves. The internal process or should push himself or herself to think the situation through and return to the partner for resolution and closure.
Are you overreacting? Too emotional? Relationship problems happen to all people. When the scenario involves being told you are too emotional, or over-reacting-there may be something else causing the relationship trouble or marital problems.